I grew up in a city that over the last three decades has been glamorize as a city full of crime, violence, murders, and corruption. I witness the crimes, the violence, the murders, and the corruption as a kid but I was also raised to not accepted as how things are but more like how things should never be and always speak against it and more importantly to want a future that those things would never be consider as a normal way of life.
I witness many things in my life and experienced things that could have easily lead me down the path to judge all the cops harshly and never respect them.
That is probably a reason why NWA’s song F**K the police resonated so much with so many people in my community when it was released.
I don’t know if my parents had the foresight of wanting to ensure that I knew that not all cops are dirty cops the same way the fought against the notion that all Latin folks are illegal and criminals. They enrolled me into the LAPD DAP Program and it really helped me see the LAPD in a different way. Prior to join the DAP program I had only seen the LAPD stopping people, handcuffing then, searching them, slapping those handcuffed on the head, and then be un-cuffed and then be told to “Get the Fuck out of here”.
A lot of things have change and the attitude from the Police officers and from the community towards each other has improved over the last 15 years.
But, that doesn’t mean that we can all rest and assume things are way better.
In fact things may be the same or possibly could be worse thanks to social media and the fact that everyone now has a video camera things ore documented more now.
But this post, This eUNKNOWN rant style post, This medium of writing that I have not used as regularly as I did 15 years ago is not about the crime, the violence, the murders, or even the corruption.
It is about how as a society grown man have some how created a double standard of “You must treat my mother, my wife, or my daughter with respect” but let me creep on and treat your mother, your wife, or/and your daughter like dirt and they better keep their mouth shut because somehow their silence is consent.
I am sure when I was younger I made some lewd jokes. But, I am thankful of the woman especial the girls in my circle of friends who firmly told me that was not okay through elementary and junior high school. So, as fathers we need to encourage our daughters that yelling NO and calling out people is needed especially since there will probably be more people that are being victimize.
As fathers we need to teach our sons unwanted dick jokes are never funny and silence never mean consent. The expectation should be to be respectful towards everyone and to always call out those who are not. This idea of boys will be boys need’s to stop and change to boys will be held accountable!
In fairness we need to teach kids regardless of gender. That they must treat others with respect and uninvited sexual advances or jokes are not consented by silence.
Over the last few weeks we have all come across accounts from people who have been sexually victimize by people in power. The list of victims and those who victimize is too long to list but is from Hollywood, Olympics, Schools, Technology, and Police.
When I read about the NYPD recent actions made the NWA song F**K the Police start playing my head.
I first heard about Anna Chambers and her story about being victimized by the NYPD through Franco’s video. I have embedded the video above and started it at the 5 minute mark for your convenience.
The NYPD is now trying to brush off the whole situation with their response of
So, lets go ahead just assume that her consent is acceptable and we are okay with that (ALTHOUGH WE ARE NOT FUCKING OKAY WITH IT! – BUT JUST TO KEEP THIS MOVING WE WILL SAY WE ARE). It is still doesn’t make anything in this situation any better. Two on duty (On the clock getting paid by our tax dollars) felt it was okay to detain a young lady. Ordering the people in the only mode of transportation she had to leave. Then taking the young lady to a parking lot and having sex with her and then left her stranded in a parking lot? What part of that is okay?
None of that is okay. Even the idea that she was in a position of giving consent is not okay and not EFFEN Acceptable!